Can you really say you’ve been a good friend? We know friendships are unquantifiable. We cannot easily measure and recall what we’ve done good to that certain person. We don’t want to sound and look like we’ve been counting what we’ve done to them right?
But what really made friendship click is not just the time you laughed out loud or shared a common thing or two. It’s not only the times you shared problems and listen to ones complaints. And as what I repeatedly say, it’s not measured by how long and how much you know about each other.
I truly value a friend when he or she knows how to respect.
Respect on your space and silence.
Respect that he or she should never shared explicit details of your life.
Respect the value that he or she shouldn’t shared your secrets to anyone cause you gave your complete trust to them.
I was completely annoyed to this one when s/he made fun of a thing that I did or do. I know I was a bit sensitive but that person should be aware that I could even hear him/her telling details of what happened and shortly heard giggles. It’s not really an issue but I really wished s/he didn’t do that. I just said “wow, salamat ah!”
After class I went back to my dorm, I asked myself what the hell I did wrong to deserve that. Wherein fact I’ve been good to them. I don’t want to account any details but some of us have the self-sacrificing attitude towards our friends. I guess being far away from our families; we have the thought that our friends are the closest thing of having one.
The most frustrating that can happen or did actually happen when you’re considered friends don’t have any support to any decisions you make. They may either be angry to you or tell you things you don’t want to hear. You don’t want their approval right? You just wanted their opinion.
The reasons why do I have trust issues… I can say I have few real and true friends. I also have attachment issues but that’s another story. hehe
I’m not saying that they have to change for me. But I believe a little sensitivity won’t hurt. I’m not saying that they should act like me, but a responsible act will do. I ‘m not saying they should speak and think like me, because I don’t want them to be boring like me.
I guess this explains why I prefer to eat alone. Or better stay in y dorm room.
Good thing I got high marks from my two other exams to deviate my thoughts! Cheers!